Apr 20
Helen Penny
20 Apr, 2017. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Helen Penny
A guest talk from a lovely mummy called Jess on her experience of looking for work while on maternity leave...   Going “forward” to work: My observations from job hunting while on maternity leave My last job contract ended as my maternity leave kicked in and – 11 months later – I’m still not really sure what I’m going to do next. Since becoming a mum, I haven’t had many moments of introspection or time to think about me. So when I was given the unexpected gift of 6 months of pro bono coaching I was both excited and apprehensive…
Dec 17
Helen Penny
#cleftlip #20weekscan #guesttalk
17 Dec, 2016. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Helen Penny
A guest talk by Jemma, a wonderful Welsh mummy living in England, on when the 20 week scan reveals something unexpected...   The 20 week scan, the second milestone scan during pregnancy. In the UK it is most commonly regarded as the day you can find out the sex of your baby, usually only the second time you get to see your baby since the moment you found out you were pregnant. Excitement overwhelms you, another opportunity to marvel at the miracle that is pregnancy, see little arms, legs, toes. A truly exciting moment in your pregnancy journey. I wasn't…
Nov 20
Helen Penny
#HappyChildren #TheDutchSecret #GuestTalk #LongRead
20 Nov, 2016. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Helen Penny
In our first #LongRead Lara, a lovely Dutch mummy living in Uruguay, gives a cross-cultural perspective on raising happy children. Grab yourself a cuppa, or a little glass of wine, and enjoy xxx   The Dutch secret revealed: Why do they have the happiest kids? Being happy. Isn’t that the wish we all have for our children? I realized this, more than ever, when I emigrated in 2014 from Holland to Uruguay, with my husband and two young kids. While I was packing my bags, Dutch media channels cheered that ‘we’ have the happiest children of the world. This was…
Feb 4
Helen Penny
#timeflies #parentingvortex
4 Feb, 2016. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Helen Penny
  I had a baby, I blinked, and now he is 1. How did that happen? Having children seems to speed up the passage of time in a way that I didn’t experience before. My days, weeks, and months are completely occupied by a thousand little tasks needed to help my little ones muddle through their worlds. Days and nights blur into one. It takes months to respond to friendly emails and I’m surprised when I realise that I haven’t spoken to people I really like for over a year. My time is gobbled up into the parenting vortex. Some…
Jan 1
Helen Penny
Happy New Year Mothers!
1 Jan, 2016. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Helen Penny
Happy New Year you wonderful people. Of course your perspective on the new year will be coloured dramatically by your life experiences in 2015 and by the promises of 2016. For some the new year will be a welcome change and closing the door on a tough year will come as a relief. For others maybe the thought of a year untouched by a departed loved one might fill you with dread. For many mothers 2016 will bring loads of firsts, first pregnancies and labours, first cuddles and smiles with your babies, first foods, steps, and tantrums, first day at…
Nov 7
Anita Marsden
Attitude of Gratitude
7 Nov, 2015. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Anita Marsden
Following on from Helen's great talk on type two fun, I wanted to write a little more about positive emotion and developing an attitude of gratitude, making sure we are grateful for the people and moments in our everyday lives.   You see I often hear friends talking about how things will be better or settle down when they change their job, find a partner, have children, or when their babies start weening or sleeping, or their toddler no longer throws tantrums or goes to school, or when they don't have teenagers to deal with! I have to catch myself…
Nov 9
Helen Penny
9 Nov, 2014. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Helen Penny
The clock is ticking. I’ve passed my due date and baby could arrive any day. And despite being a psychologist, and this being my third child, I find myself displaying the patience of a three-year-old in the week before her birthday. I know something big is happening, I know it will be soon, but I can’t say exactly when and I’m ready (almost) to burst with anticipation! It seems to me that parenthood amplifies the need for patience in a way that is hard to fathom pre-children. From trying to conceive (with around 35% of healthy fertile women in their…
Oct 26
Helen Penny
Unconditional Positive Regard
26 Oct, 2014. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Helen Penny
I could have thrown a brick through a window as a child and my grandmother – Nanny Gwyneth – would have said “did you see how well she aimed that brick?” She had in abundance something that psychologists refer to as Unconditional Positive Regard. In its essence, this is the ability to view someone positively regardless of his or her behaviours or achievements. It is holding the attitude that the person you are dealing with is inherently valuable just because they exist. My Nanny had oodles of this attitude when it came to her grandchildren; it provided us with the…
Oct 18
Anita Marsden
18 Oct, 2014. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Anita Marsden
There’s an explosion outside my window. At this time of year fireworks go off all the time where I live. It’s only October 17th, but bonfire season seems to start in September for us. You get used to the sudden loud bang out of nowhere in the middle of a quiet evening. When I hear a bang outside, my brain immediately labels it as a benign thing. But that isn’t the feeling of many people that live in different parts of the world. In a Johannesburg township, inner city Detroit, a Palestinian refugee camp or a Pakistani village that bang…
Oct 12
Helen Penny
12 Oct, 2014. 0 Comments. Uncategorized. Posted By: Helen Penny
We at 101mothers are delighted: Malala has won the Nobel Peace Prize. A great choice after some rather suspect decisions over the past few years – think Barack Obama who was nominated just 12 days into his presidency, Al Gore for making a documentary, and the last winner, the European Union?! Malala is a wonderful winner, and not just by contrast, she deserves it. In case you’ve missed it, here is the story: Malala is a 17-year-old girl, who defied the Taliban in the Swat Valley in Pakistan. She not only continued with her education after they tried to ban…